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Days have changed so much that on Diwali, I did not wake up to the sound of crackers. I didn't know that there were many more changes that I had to accept. 

A short extract from our conversations (kids and me)......................

Me: Get up babies(they still are my babies). I have the special Diwali oil for you guys along with the marundhu(digestive powder).

Daughter: AMMA.....please apply very little oil on my head because the straightening effect on my hair will reduce and it costed a bomb for me. A big yuck! for the marundhu.

Me: Oho ;)......

Me: And Suraj, what happened to your new dress? What happened to your new one?

Son: It is a new one Amma. Torn jeans are in fashion.

Me: (Controlling my anger) Ok fine! Atleast let us go and meet and greet our friends.

Children: Mom, we have already wished and posted our pics in Fb, Whatsapp, Instagram and Snapchat. We have got enough of likes for our posts,so please,we aren't moving_/\_We are also not interested in bursting crackers.

Me: Seeing them not lifting their heads from their phones, i got irritated, annoyed, shocked in seeing my kids getting drowned in a brain draining device.

I felt like attaching a hydrogen bomb to their mobiles!....................................

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This blog is from the impact  I felt after watching  the recent Tamil movie Iraivi.

Some men try to overcome the problems in their lives  and do not realise the impact that they have on the women. Some of the women who got entangled in the institute of marriage  are unable to come out.

There are some women who are caught with bad men in their lives and cannot make up their mind to move on or remarry. Women who end up in an unhappy marriage , soldier on because that is what women are meant to do in our society!!!!  ISN'T IT???   Yes, sadly, IT IS!!!

Are women the symbol of sacrifice and sympathy??  Are they to be met with blame, criticism and harassment??

A woman gets married to live with him and not to deal with his problems.

If a man is not ready or fit for a marriage, I strongly think that he should not marry.

Do not marry a girl to bury your unhappiness, your insecurity and your incapability to handle your own life.

And in the end, do not critize her because she cannot change you!!!!

Not anymore. The next generation girls are not going to tolerate any nonsense from men.I am happy to see them with a strong will power, self esteem and pride.

This is the tale of few WOmen.

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Tom & Jerry

A few lines from reading my son's mind during the examination period.

"Hey ma, how is it possible for me to sit for such long hours to study? 

I am thinking of how I will be spending my holidays or playing football matches or go to all the latest movies.

Every time you come to check on me and caught me using a tab inside a book or miming in front of the mirror or falling asleep or asking if I was following my sister's timetable and a big fight that followed was inevitable and annoying.

I know you didn't believe me whenever I told you I have completed the portion and I am thorough with it.

As soon as the math exam got over, you didn't trust me when I said the paper was tough until it came in the news the next day ;)

I hope the holy thread you tied in my wrist,the Hayagriva and Saraswathi slokas and the powerful Sudharshana Ashtakam that you made me recite will fetch me a better score (according to you).

I thank you sincerely Amma for all the multi-cuisine fancy dishes you made to satisfy my hunger pranks including the Kanjivaram Idlis and the Thavalai Vadai.(surely it needs to be renamed).I am sure you did all this to please me so that I should put in some more efforts to study.

Alas,the Tom & Jerry game between us is over and the poor,naughty Jerry has been let out.No more troubles from my side."

Current Situation;

I did do well without the examination blues and thanks to your chilled out attitude,I am expecting awesome grades! ;)

Please do not follow my mother or me for my marks.I don't like being praised that much ;)   

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Valentine's Day Special - Part II

Me : I am in love! I am in love! I am in love!

Two eyes from behind the newspaper were staring at me with 50% curiosity and 50% anger.

Husband : What are you saying!?

I was ready to spill the beans ;)

Husband : Don't you know I am madly in love with you?!?.....................and you with someone else??????

Me (very casually) : IT IS LOVE.CRAZY LOVE.

Husband : Who is he??? Did he study with you? Did he work with you? How did you meet him?YOU SAID THAT YOU HAD NO 'EX' IN YOUR LIFE!

For this,I stood in front of the mirror and gently caressed my neck.

Husband : How did you get in touch with him? In Facebook or Whatsapp? Tell me who he is?

Me: Metha Kirthilal ;)

His anger now at its peak,I decided i should tell him the truth.

Me : They are the leading diamond merchants in the city and I am in love with one of their necklaces and not with them.(At least not yet.)

I could see a big sigh of relief in my husbands face and expected him to gift me atleast a small pair of earrings for my latest piercing.

LOVE is forever and so are DIAMONDS ;)


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Valentine's Day Special

I did not fall in love before my marriage!!!!!!!!!!  Will reveal it later ;)

I am writing about love which has romance in it.

Starting from love at first sight to holding hands and breathing our last , no one knows how it happens .

Teen love(crush) is where excitement, newness and  exploring of the infatuation happens. It is fun and thrilling , but doesn't last for long. No one forgets the first crush, first love, first kiss.................

Do they????

Young adult love stimulates intimacy, courage and confidence which ends up in marriage for a few. Not all true love end in a marriage.

During middle age love they feel comfortable enough to share thoughts and feelings. It deepens to trust, respect , honesty and a spark of physical attraction too.  It is quite unpredictable how, when and why it comes.  Accept it.  It is happy, confusing, painful and hard to believe at that age but still those who are in love look forward to it.

Beyond middle age love shows that love has no age and the human tendency to find companionship.

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Now my experience of Valentine's day.

Soon after my marriage I sent my husband a bouquet for our first Valentine's Day. This followed by a candle light dinner resulted in him giving me a big gift ;) You guessed it!!! A baby after ten months:)

Then after five years, my mother offered to baby sit my daughter and was too happy sending me  with my husband for a short holiday on the Valentine's Day resulting in me having another baby. Cliché huh?

There was no more Valentine's Day celebration until this year.

"I am in love, I am in love" was the first thing I told my husband in the morning.(My young editor got furious looking at this line ;) 

Two eyes from behind the newspaper were staring at me with 50% curiosity and 50% anger.

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To be continued on the next Friday.....................................

Life Boy

All the brides dream of how a husband should be..................................

H- Humorous, he who lifts me when I am low.

U- Understanding me and not  underestimating me.

S- Supports me in every little thing I do.

B- Believes in me no matter what , biased to me, big hearted.

A- Accepts me with all the flaws. 

N- Nurtures me, non violent.

D- Dearly loves me, darling, dedicated, devoted.

A husband should be a friend forever, make me laugh, wipe my  tears and keep me strong.  He should be such a gentleman that even after many years of living together , a wife should be able to say ," I love my husband with all my heart, he is still my best friend."  They( I mean the husband)  should remain humble, gentle, patient and make an allowance for all the wife's (small and big) faults.

A husband can be great support to hold on to in the roller coaster ride of marriage.

It's  the simplest fair expectation from all the wives all over the world. Making it real is not that difficult, isn't it????.

I am sure my next blog will be a dictated version from my husband of 'A husband's expectation of a wife.' ( crying face)

I end it with Martin Luther King's quote, "Let the wife make the husband glad to come home and let him make her sorry to see him leave."

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Dropping my next blog on Valentine's Day and sorry for the short commercial break ; ) ....................

Diwali Is Very Unique

I see there are no expectations,excitement and happiness to celebrate Diwali among kids.

Maybe they have too much of everything.They don't get attracted to buy a new dress.Still the girls(all ages)have not lost the interest to buy the latest dress just to put a pic in FaceBook to get the maximum number of likes.

The kids eat pastries,sweets and ice creams every weekend,so they have lost the interest to eat the Diwali sweets and snacks.

My nostalgic moments about Diwali were fun filled.Since I was brought up in a joint family,it was a mega event for all of us.Wanting to wake up first to burst the crackers before anyone could,stealing the sweets and the crackers overnight which was split equally among us,showing off our new dress,seeing my mother and all my aunts making mixture(Indian snack)in a drum and my grandmother waiting to apply oil on our heads and feed us the leghium(medicinal herb to be given on Diwali),..................................is something I miss.

Maybe the present boys and girls will be more excited if there is a release of a new APPLE product ;)

I had to constantly remind my children to join me in lighting the lamps,drawing rangoli and greeting people.

There were no personal wishes to any close friends or cousins but a lot of Whatsapp messages to everyone in thier contacts.

I understand the GO-GREEN attitude and appreciate it but will they agree to go without their mobiles for a day.

It is always so much fun to burst sky rockets,train crackers,snake buttons which roll like a snake when lit and this time..........I didn't see a single child who got excited when he saw a diwali gun:(

Come on children!:) Enjoy these fun filled festivals of our country.

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